How do we learn to let go, to trust other men, to go deeper in our connections?
What - as gay/bi/queer men* - holds us back from trusting one another and forming deeper intimacy?
What keeps us caught in patterns of transactional sex that we find unfulfilling?
In The Art of Surrender, you’ll get to practice building intimacy, trust, and safety with other men, so that you can finally let go into a world of pleasure, connection and bliss. We’ll use tantric massage practices, including anal massage, to practice receiving touch and pleasure, and opening up to experiences beyond the mind.
The Art of Surrender is learning how to let go of control, so we can show up more authentically. It’s allowing ourselves to be seen, so that we can embody more of our potential in the world. It’s opening up to new experiences, new feelings, and new possibilities in our erotic lives, so we can break out of the scripts and discover something truly profound.
With support and guidance, you’ll discover the bliss that’s only possible when you let down your shields and allow yourself to surrender.
By participating in this weekend, you’ll join a community of like-minded men* wanting to authentically connect, outside of the limiting scripts of mainstream gay culture.
*We warmly welcome all cis and trans men, as well as individuals with other gender identities within the queer masculine spectrum, regardless of body type, appearance, or disability.
What will you explore?
How to build intimacy, in your relationships and with men you’ve just met
How to create safety and trust with your partner, and better attune to your partner’s needs and your own
How to look beyond preferences and discover the parts of you and of others that are deeply lovable
Tantric massage techniques to activate and energize the body
How to receive touch and allow yourself to be held and taken
Discover a deeply healing relationship with your anus, focused on slowness and appreciation
How to weave together your sexuality and spirituality to open up to experiences of profound connection
Allow your sexual energy to bring you into states of pure bliss
What is surrender?
Surrender is a state one can enter when we let go of our mind’s need to control our experience. Surrender can feel similar to a flow state - when we move effortlessly and thoughtlessly through our experience, moment-by-moment. In states of surrender, we can often feel more deeply - feel our sensations, our pleasure, and our energies. Surrender gives us access to spiritual states where we can feel held and supported, connect with our intuition, and connect with a sense of something larger than us.
Often in states of surrender we feel a great degree of freedom. Freedom from the burden of the mind and its incessant chatter. Freedom from anxiety. Freedom from fear.
And in this state we often find a sense of healing. Of coming home to ourselves. When we finally stop trying to control everything and land in a space of ‘be-ing’.
In this weekend, we’ll use anal massage practices as a portal to access states of surrender. In anal massage, we get to practice receiving, being held and cared for by another, and letting go of our need to ‘do’, to be ‘active’, or to control.
In order to be able to let go, we have to feel deeply safe. So we will spend significant time over the weekend building our container of trust and intimacy as a group, and helping you to feel your capacity, boundaries and limits so that you can receive in safety.
This event is for you if:
You struggle to let go of control and want to invite more ease and flow into your life
You struggle to receive - touch, pleasure, love, care - and you want to allow more
You want to drop in to flow states, and experience the pleasure of not over-thinking
You want to connect with other men* in safety, trust and care, and discover the freedom that arises in authentic intimacy
You want to enjoy the pleasure of touching and holding other men with a strong container of consent, boundaries and safety
You want to feel more comfortable in your body
You want to explore new types of anal pleasure
You want to heal your relationship with your anus from past emotional traumas or pain
You want to develop a relationship with your anus that feels empowered, caring and sensitive
You are willing to dive into a weekend that may be uncomfortable, but has the potential for huge growth and transformation
No previous experience with tantric or anal massage is required
What if there’s someone there I don’t want to touch (or be touched by)?
Our events prioritise consent. You'll never be obliged to touch or be touched by anyone. We begin the event with exercises that empower you to say "no" both verbally and non-verbally. As facilitators we are here to ensure your safety, so you can have your own experience without worrying about unwanted touch.
While we encourage exploring beyond your usual preferences, it's entirely your choice. As you might in a massage, you may allow yourself to be touched or to touch someone you wouldn’t usually be attracted to. This event is about expanding your experiences beyond the workshop.
If you ever feel uncomfortable, you won't be forced to connect with anyone. Your safety is our priority.
Practicalities
Date & Time:
The workshop runs from 10:00-18:00 on Saturday January 25 and 9:30-17:30 on Sunday January 26th
Price:
Tickets are €280 with low income tickets available for €230.
Location:
This workshop will be held at de Ruimte on the Weesperzijde in Amsterdam
Sleeping:
The workshop doesn’t include lodging. There are numerous hotels and bnb’s in the area.
What previous participants said:
“I experienced breaking away from limiting thought patterns. Moving more from physical sensation and being with what comes up in the moment”
- Kilian
“You both created an event so wonderfully with the warmest parts of your hearts. I receive a spaceless and timeless time, thank you so much”
- Steve
“I felt at ease with myself and self-presence in a space/group of men, that can be quite overwhelming at times. And I loved having that ‘mind-fuck’ switch turned off”
- Adam
Who’s facilitating?
The event is a facilitated by Jason King. Jason is a Sexological Bodyworker and somatic sex educator. He is passionate about helping people expand their sense of what’s possible in their sex lives. Jason works with individuals and groups to manifest powerfully healing embodied experiences, build community, and embrace our erotic oneness.
Follow Jason on Instagram @embodied_eros
As you are on Jason’s website, you can read more here.
Questions?
Unsure if this is the right event for you? Reach out with a message. I’m happy to have a free short call and discuss if this is the right space for you at this time in your life.